Help me....

Can anyone tell me, how in the hell do you make the people around you know how to respond to you when your in a manic down spell!!!!!   The two people in my life, husband and daughter both just want to fight with me, because they don't like what i have to say or how i say it!!! I promise you, two nights ago all i wanted to do was to run my car off the road and kill me and my daughter. She would NOT SHUT UP!!!! She is 24, recently just moved back home and is a major pain in the ass!!! Somebody PLEASE help me......I feel like i'm falling down a big black hole and there's no way out!!!